We accept the love we think we deserve

"She and I were the same, meaning that we were created for each other, the type of love which we could practice was a matter of our own agreement, since from the beginning of our twenties we couldn't resist beauty. but we didn't have the courage to live it."

This quote made me think of the perks of being a wallflower and the quote "we accept the love we think we deserve". From my understanding the guy has fallen in love with a herion addict and he thinks he can save her with the power of his love. Him, being a herion addict himself, should know that his love is only going to suffocate and push her away. later in the story as he discusses his love life it seems as though he may not actually be in love with this girl, rather he's settling because he believes he can not do any better.

I think often times especially as teenagers and young adults we settle. We settle with a person we think we want to be with. We're so anxious to get married, have kids, start a career, and get a house that we often distract ourselves from the hideous personalities of our "loved" one.

As humans we like to help people, or the idea to help people, or rather the attention we receive from helping people and doing good deeds.  Which brings up my next point, Is Tom, the main character, really in love or is he in love with the idea of saving this girl from herself? I think too often times we find ourselves looking at drug and alcohol addiction, self-esteem issues, and mental health issues as some sort of project. Like maybe you're that one person who can actually be in love and save them, or are you that person that is in love with them while they're ill and then realize they're not who you wanted when they're better?

My thinking of Tom is this; I believe that Tom isn't in love with this girl who is strung out on herion. He's in love with the idea of saving her because no one was there to love and save him when he was addicted.





Rose,, Ashley. "When Panic Grips Your Body,." Flickr. Yahoo!, 06 June 2008. Web. 16 Nov. 2012. <http://www.flickr.com/photos/22196205@N03/2556609897/>.